I am a Dom and have been enjoying the lifestyle on and off for the last 17 years or so. Wish I can say that I have taken part in events over the years but something always prevented me (more so the wife). I am a widow now of a few years, and have have gotten back in the swing of things which I have missed so much.
I have decided to start getting in to a few of the events, and munches when I can. I guess my question is: What is the straight Dom wearing these days to a standard event?. I understand certain fetish events require certain ‘outfits’, but I am more so curious about less formal events.. Any kind of help can useful..
- The best advice for working with Fetish events’ dress codes, is to try and dress as sexy as possible. PVC, rubber, leather, and lingerie work best.
- If you are not sure if your outfit meets the requirements, take a photo of your outfit and send it to the event promoter. Get their confirmation and print a copy of it, so that you can show it to the staff at the door if there is a problem.
- If you are having trouble at the door, suggest removing your shirt.
All of that being said, Fetish Nights may have dress codes, but munches, swingers’ parties, and play parties do not.
Again, check with the event organizer to be sure. You can find tonnes of fun play events in your area on fetlife.com, and many of them will not require any specific attire.
BDSM play parties are all about flogging, spanking, violet wands, and a myriad of kinky fun – while having minimal to no dress code at all. It sounds like these will work best for you – versus the “stand and model” fetish nights, where you have to dress all sexy (or be a human vibrator).